This is for me. But I hope you'll join in too.

This January I’m revisiting an adventure I first embarked on 3 years ago; essentially following in Jen Hatmaker’s footsteps, which she outlines in her book 7: An Experimental Mutiny Against Excess. She explains it best:

I started praying about what God wanted; what would move me closer to His agenda and further from mine? How could this be meaningful, not just narcissistic and futile? What areas needed the most renovation? How am I blind and why? Where have I substituted The American Dream for God’s kingdom? What in my life, in the lives of most westerners, is just too stinking much?

  • Food
  • Clothes
  • Possessions
  • Media
  • Waste
  • Spending
  • Stress

Seven Months, seven areas, reduced to seven simple choices. I’m embarking on a journey of less. It’s time to purge the junk and pare down to what is necessary, what is noble. 7 will be an exercise in simplicity with one goal: to create space for God’s kingdom to break through. I approached this project in the spirit of a fast: an intentional reduction, a deliberate abstinence to summon God’s movement in my life. A fast creates margin for God to move.  {Taken from 7’s introduction}

Three years ago I adopted Jen’s approach and did my own little 7 experiment, tackling each area of excess for one month. You can read all about the start of it HERE, the first days of Month 1 {purging possessions} HERE, and follow along with subsequent posts from January – December 2014 if you want to see how things went for me.
You guys. Creating space is life changing. Space in your home, space in your closet, space in your finances, space in your calendar…. it changes you, because it essentially creates space {physically, mentally, emotionally} for God to move and bring you in the direction of his greater purpose for your life. It’s a purposeful choice, though, to change directions and focus rather than continue barreling through the days and weeks on our own agenda, completing our own tasks to move us towards our self-appointed goals in life.
Three years ago, after completing only the first month of experiments {possessions}, I felt PHYSICALLY lighter. Like a weight had been lifted off of me, simply by getting rid of STUFF. I can’t wait to do it again. So far, my intention this year is to tackle only possessions, but I may end up fasting from media again as well. Cutting back on Facebook is never a bad thing.
Want to join me? Starting January 1st, get rid of 7 items each day. Honestly, the first weeks are probably going to be ridiculously easy for most of us. Three years ago, in my initial adventure with purging possessions, I made it through a month of purging 7 items each day without breaking a sweat. But I understood the purpose of this experiment, so I extended the length of time I was focused on possessions to two months. And just a word of warning; don’t cheat yourself out of this experience by phoning it in. Be diligent. Be consistent. Be thorough. Be hard on yourself. Make tough decisions. If you read my blog posts from three years ago, you’ll see that I didn’t allow myself to coast through this by counting each article of clothing individually {which would have resulted in the first month of purging being focused solely on clothing, I’m sure} or by keeping items simply because I had the space to store them. Nobody needs two cake stands. I’m not the Pillsbury dough boy. I don’t even really bake. When it comes to possessions, allowing yourself to gloss over a hoard of stuff just because ‘you’ve always had it’ or ‘it’s not taking up much space’ is really defeating the purpose of this experiment.
The purpose isn’t just to get rid of stuff. It is to GIVE UP stuff. Stuff you may even love. To create space for something GOD loves and has in store for you.
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I like starting with possessions, rather than one of the other 6 areas of excess noted in Jen’s book, because freeing up our hold on our earthly possessions is more about our mental and emotional priorities than it is about actual items in our homes. It’s about our focus, about our heart’s focus…. and I think it’s the hardest one for us to be truly honest with ourselves about, because everything in our home is ours. It’s for us. To make life easy or so we can feel good, feel like we’re enough when compared to our neighbor. I’m ready to kick comparison out of my life. Ain’t nobody got time for that.
I’m so excited for you to join me on this adventure this month.
Less of me, more of him.
XOXO,
Ashley
 
 

We have a walker!

Our little Peep continues to surprise us. This past week he’s started trying to say “cheese” when you take his photo, he started initiating peek-a-boo, and he is officially walking. We still have a ways to go with building his strength but I just love how proud he is when he is on the move. He’s worked so hard to accomplish this!
I wish you could see his sweet little face towards the end. It would MAKE YOUR DAY!
Also, less than 2 months until he won’t be able to wear this ‘one’ shirt anymore. I can’t believe he’s about to celebrate his second birthday. I’m hopeful I’ll get to hear a ‘mama’ before then… but I’m just as content to be the recipient of his carefully guarded snuggles.
 
xoxo,
Ashley
 
 
 

You won't be getting a Christmas card from us (Sorry, not sorry)

I just can’t do it this year. There isn’t one specific reason why; just a combination of too many ‘ugh’ feelings when I even think about doing a card. So I’ve decided to say NO to the Baker Christmas card.
You guys,  I love Christmas and I love getting Christmas cards and I understand that it takes commitment and a certain ability to plan ahead, not to mention the financial investment, to send them. So I appreciate each and every card sent to us because I know the thought that went into it. I just literally can’t even this year!  Thinking about editing and shipping and stamp costs has me all like….
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So, in lieu of a mailed card that you would most likely recycle come January 1 anyway, please enjoy our digital Christmas card {of sorts} and a family update. Peep sporting a reindeer visage for privacy reasons, like a boss.
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Here’s an overview of our year.
Chris: He’s been working at Boleman Law Firm for over a year now. He loves it. He plays electric guitar in the church worship band. He loves it. I feel like I should say more about him but he’s a pretty uncomplicated guy.
Ashley: I saw my last clients through my private practice in February and have been a mostly stay-at-home mama while taking occasional shifts at CHKD {the local children’s hospital} since then. My kidneys are stable at the moment {Read up on my genetic kidney disease here and here). I am also {newly} in charge of organizing the chaos that is Next Generation {little kids stuff} at one of our church’s campus’. It has been a very fulfilling year. I’m so thankful for the chance to stay at home with our kiddos while working enough to maintain my skills in the field.
Chris and I were blessed with the chance to take two vacations this year. In the summer we  rocked Disney World with our kiddos and some awesome friends.
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Then in the fall Chris and I escaped to my favorite place on earth: Kauai. I can’t wait to share more from those adventures in later posts!
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Charlie Grace: She is desperate to learn how to whistle, but so far no success with it this year. Her favorite color is still black. She’s in a preK 4 classroom at our zoned primary school and based on reports from her teacher she is quite the ‘queen bee’.She’s got a big ‘ole heart and a ginormous brain and I’ve seen her grow leaps and bounds in overcoming her social anxiety this year!
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Peep: Our little fella has been working hard in speech therapy and physical therapy to make gains in his communication and with walking. He has taken a few steps and has a few words/signs now and we are so proud of his progress! Things are still moving towards adoption, with some road blocks continuing to stall things, but we would wait forever and a day for this little guy to officially become a Baker; we’re just happy to have him in our home. God will take care of the details.
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Peep, working on his walking at The Little Gym.

 
XOXO,
Ashley

My favorites {video edition}

It’s been a rainy weekend because of Hurricane Matthew and we’ve been trapped inside because of flooding. The kids are going a little bit stir-crazy and I’ve been putting off doing anything productive in favor of doing anything fun and relaxing. So far I’ve read a thousand blog posts, pinned 50 recipes I’ll never make, changed a few diapers, fed the kids whatever they asked for, ignored 55 tantrums, and said “hands to yourself” about a trillion times. Oh, and I did get one load of laundry done and gave a bath to a certain 1 year old with a serious banana-slime issue…. so that’s something.
The best part of the day, though, was this little giggle sesh {Peep’s face blurred for privacy, but I couldn’t NOT share that giggle with you!}:
And just like the chain of events with a certain mouse and his cookies and milk, once you post a video to Youtube, you’ll probably end up watching five {or fifty} more. I just couldn’t stop the trip down memory lane!
Like this gem, in which Charlie tries to inhale a muffin. She comes by her love of bread honestly.
Or this one, that got her a little bit of fame on the internet
I’ll stop there. I want to spare you the pain of watching all my kid’s home videos. Not as bad as a long Christmas card letter or the dreaded accordion wallet photo conversation, but still up there in the ‘avoid at all costs’ column for most people. You’re welcome.
Ok, wait. Here’s one more I can’t resist because 2 month old Charlie having the sweetest little chat with mommy just melts the heart. Warning: Watching this video may cause any woman {and possibly man} to succumb to the need to snatch up the nearest baby and soak up its sweetness. I urge you to resist, especially if you are in public and have no relation whatsoever to the nearest squishy lump of love.
xoxo,
Ashley